There’re 2 aspects that we will cover in this article: How to keep sanity while being passionate about your vision, practicing positive thinking and also how to avoid getting on other peoples nerves. But before that I want to address a question that people have been asking me since I started this blog.
“Is this practice of thinking positive enough or sufficient for changing our lives and seeing results?”
The short answer is NO.
Thinking positive is only part of the equation. There’s a complete process that needs to take place in order for restructuring our mental patterns. Things like association with ideas and beliefs that we have programmed in our minds that work against us limiting ourselves and preventing us from achieving our dreams.
These ideas and our association with them (emotions of pleasure and pain) have to be rewired with positive ideas and emotions. So don’t forget, acting positive by itself will have no favorable results, you will be just wasting your time.
So let’s get back to business.
How to practice Positive Thinking without losing it.
First of all, you must realize that being in total control and having a complete peaceful feeling inside you, even while you engage in different activities that demand aggressive action on your part IS POSSIBLE.
You don’t have to stress about being passionate or positive in life; if you do so, it could turn into a self-inflected trap that you could fall in to very easily, holding you back in your practice at the end of the day.
If you over do it, you’ll burn your engine and might even confuse or piss some people off on the way.
So first: Calm down and take your time!
Don’t exaggerate. We have the tendency of going to the extreme when we find methods and practices that we like “on paper”. We tend to forget that it’s all a healing process. The majority of things take time to fix. Let’s say for example, if you took months or years building up fat in your body and ending up 30 pounds overweight, be conscious that it will take at least a couple a months to take them off in a natural healthy way.
But our “just get a lipo” mentality has been dominating us for a long time, especially in this generation. It is the perfect example of how selfish we’ve become in life.
This type of attitude of getting it all right now without struggle or work can drive us to illogical behaviors that could damage us intensely; even when practicing things such as affirmations, visualization or positive thinking, we must understand that it’s a process that needs time.
Unless you’re one of those Gurus that have no ego and create miracles whit the blink of an eye, you must take your time to change your mental habits. You must work on it and shift your mind and attitude slowly. You can’t turn into a Tony Robbins just overnight…I mean, unless you really believe it, (which by the way, I’m a big fan of his work). You must take small steps and not kid yourself.
And Second: Leave people alone or you will pay for it!
Passionate people practicing positive thinking can be really annoying. Especially if you’re just pretending to be positive. When you’re truly positive inside and not just on the surface, your attitude towards other will change. But that’s a subject for another time.
So, if you have a positive attitude and express it all the time you could absolutely confuse or annoy the hell out of people that aren’t in the same channel as you are. So if you want to avoid getting punched in the face, getting yelled at or being thrown out the window, you need to be aware of where and when to outwardly express your good vibe.
You must realize that you represent a minority of sociality. You see, what happens is that over 90% of people are not interested in this type of mindset. They’re busy with their lives. They already know right from wrong, and know exactly what they should or not be doing.
It doesn’t take a genius to know when you’re doing something you’re not supposed to.
So for the love a God, Buddha or whatever you call it, please leave them alone. A lecture from you about positivism and common sense won’t help you win any points with them. It might even create the opposite effect.
This doesn’t mean that you have to stop being positive, I only means that you don’t need to express it all the time to everybody all freaking day. Being positive is an attitude, not a lecture. It’s a way of leaving not verbally expressing theories.
Also, don’t forget that some people basically just don’t and won’t get it. They don’t want to know more or learn anything else, they don’t have the time or interest to follow you along. And we all should respect this. Besides, it takes a lot of discipline and an intense and complete awareness to understand our own mind and observe our own reactions.
The majority of people are only interested on what happens outside of them, they never stop and look inside their own heads to see what’s going on. It seems to be easier to detect and point out the mistakes that others make; this way protecting their point of view and making them wrong and making us right, with the objective of trying to make ourselves feel good.
I already wrote about this subject in another article. It’s the old classic; “it’s your mistake, your problem, not mine. So see you later.” This is ok, but this attitude keeps people from analyzing their own issues and growing as human beings.
Luckily, this is not you. The fact that you’re reading this mean that you’re interested in personal growth and breaking the barriers of your mental conditioning. Just based in this simple act of you reading these types of articles is a clear sign that you have that “thing” inside you that 90% of people don’t.
Be and feel proud about this. And as always… NEVER quit, never stop, NEVER give up!!!!